Walkin the Dog...

Tonight I took my puppy for a walk. And while walking through my somewhat quiet neighborhood, I was watching as my dog would always put his nose to the ground and get way ahead of me. I always made him come back, and would sometimes get a little frustrated by it, but he is a puppy so I couldn't be to mad, he is just learning. The funny thing about this though, was that he would get ahead of me, stop, look back at me, and then wait for me to catch up. I couldn't help but compare this to my walk with God. I just kept thinking about how the Dog Whisperer, my mom's favorite, says the dog should walk with its head up and right at your side. This past sunday at church, the pastor was saying how so often we go ahead of God, and forget that He is there. And then when we can't go any further on our own, we ask Him to come back. Sort of like what my puppy would do. He'd get to the end of the leash, and then look at me and wait for me to get closer to him so that he could once again reach the end of the leash. In terms of the Dog Whisperer, I need to be the pack leader of my dog, but when it comes to my faith, I need to be a part of the pack, where God is the leader. How often do we try and do things on our own, get to the end of our leash, and then realize oh hey God, I can use your help now, wanna come closer? I don't know about you, but I am sick of living this way. Nothing ever ends up right, and I just end up in well, a mess! Anyone want to join me on living at God's side instead of all the way in front of Him?

Where did you go??

So about 6 months ago I decided I would write a "Note" as facebook calls them on modesty and purity. It was more for myself and my Christian Sisters and Brothers. But God has been pretty much YELLING at me to extend this to my Sisters and Brothers who may not be fellow believers. And to speak to them/you from my heart. This is for everyone!



For nearly 3 years I had the privilege of being a "big sis" to some girls from my old youth group. I had the privilege of messing up in front of them, fixing those mess ups and growing so much from them. I had and still have the privilege of investing in their lives and being that person that tells them straight forward why I don't want them doing things. These girls mean more then anything to me. They have inspired me so much for my future and the goals I have made for my life. So this blog is for them. It is also because the "lil bros" I have from this old youth group. I have a passion for changing the world.. and well for me this is where it starts.



I am completely disgusted and just broken hearted by this world and the way it promotes to young teens that "sex sells" and I am so very broken hearted over how many young teens, both boys and girls, give into this, except this, and make this a reality.



I was at a Carrie Underwood concert this past weekend. As my mom and I sat and waited for the concert to began we saw countless girls and older women walking by with there boobs popping out of their shirts, their butts hanging out of their shorts. Now I get that this is the "norm" for country music... BUT WHY? Why have we let this become the norm? Why do so many girls only feel confident and beautiful when they have their bodies on display?

Why is it that I turn on a TV and all you see is girls barely dressed, demeaning themselves in how they act, and showing the young girls who they look up to that being this way is "a sign of maturity." And not only does this affect girls, it greatly affects boys! Have you heard the way boys talk about girls these days? Have you seen how boys are told they are suppose to act these days? Why do we let this happen? Why do we just keep giving in? Why don't we fight this and say you know what this needs to end now. We need our kids to grow up being Respectful and Respected.



I ask myself all the time, "what is it that a guy would really want in a girl?" because lets face it ladies... ITS SO HARD TO FIGURE THEM OUT! hahaha! But in all seriousness I wonder this often. But you know what I learned? I learned I am asking and wondering the wrong question. I should really be asking "what is it i would want a guy to want me for?" and when I answer that... I never have said, oh i want him to like me for my body and to think that I am hot. Instead I want him to like me for my heart, for my passions, for my thoughts, for my strength. And well of course I'd like him to think that I am pretty! but not the kind of pretty that is based off of lust, and desires, but the kind of pretty that is based off of charm, and my smile, the kind of pretty that comes from the inside and shines through on the outside. Because i know 40 years from now I am not gonna be as put together as I am now. that 40 years from now my body will look drastically different. So if the only thing a guy is interested in me for is my body... well that will be short lived.

But I am a girl.. and even though I know I shouldn't be asking what guys want in a girl... I still do! so I thought I would do this survey type thing on my Facebook. There is this book called The Truth About Guys written by this amazing man named Chad Eastham. In this book he compares girls to cars, because most guys love cars! Well he begins to explain how if a guy is given a car you know with this killer engine and just everything he could ever want and is just told to go and do what he wants with it.. that that guy is going to just drive it as fast as he can, do a bunch of crazy stuff with it.. and probably wreck it. But if this same guy had to work, save up the money and buy his dream car with help from no one then, they are going to take care of that car, they are going to make it last, treat it like their baby. He compared this to how us girls should be with guys. If we give them everything they want, show off our bodies, and give ourselves away to them.. chances are they are going to treat us like that first car, they will just use us for a while but once we get old, once they have a chance to wreck us then they are done. But if the guy has to work for your attention, has to work to be your boyfriend, and genuinely cares for you, then he will treat you like the second car. Wouldn't you much rather be the one he worked hard for and continues to work hard for?

So now, what does my facebook survey thing have to do with this?? Well I thought lets take this one step further, lets see what a guy truly cares about in his car. So on my status I asked this question:

"Question for the guys who are car lovers... When it comes to your dream car do you want something that is beautiful on the outside, but comes with a mediocre engine, messed up interior; or would you rather have a car that looks okay on the outside, not a beauty but not a dump, but has the best engine money could buy, and perfect interior?"

Everyone who commented on this answered the second choice. That they would much rather have a car with the best engine and that just look ok on the outside. That yea, they'd want it to be beautiful on the outside but the most important thing is what was on the inside, what the car was made of.
Now I guess that isn't solid evidence that guys prefer girls for their insides rather then their outsides... but in all honesty girls... Is that really what we want? And is that really what we want to show the world?

So here is my challenge to you girls: show the world exactly what it is that you would like to be desired for. And to show the world how you want to be treated and respected.

And you boys? you get a challenge too: Show the girls in your life respect, and desire them in a healthy and respectful way. because boys, us girls tend to dress to impress you boys!

Modest is Hottest!

I have no clue if any of this made sense... or if i just rambled.. But I'll let God use what he wants from this.